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    • Love Our Body, Love Ourselves >
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        • Boys and Puberty
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      • Menstruation
      • Emotional, Psychological and Social Changes in Puberty
      • What is Sex/Sexual Intercourse
      • How Does Somebody Become Pregnant?
      • What are the Physical and Physiological Effects of Pregnancy in Adolescents?
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      • Developing a Positive Self-Image
      • Risk Taking Behavior
      • Keeping Fit the Healthy Way
      • Developing a Healthy Mind
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      • Take Home Message
    • Healthy Relationships and Family Values >
      • Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships with Peers, Parents and Friends
      • Ways that One Would Like to be Treated in a Romantic Relationships
      • Effective Communication in a Relationship
      • Impact of Technology and Social Media Communication in A Relationship
      • Take Home Message
    • Skills Building >
      • Communication Skills
      • Negotiation Skills
      • Decision Making Skills
      • Building Self-Confidence and Self Esteem
      • Problem Solving Skills
      • Take Home Message
    • Sexuality: Gender and Sex >
      • Gender and Sex
      • Gender Identity
      • Gender Roles
      • Gender Stereotypes
      • Gender Integration
      • Sexual Orientation
      • LGBT Community and Sexual and Reproductive Health
      • Take Home Message
      • Quiz
    • From a Boy to a Man >
      • Boys' Role in a Relationship
      • Boys’ Roles and Responsibilities in Family Matters
      • Contraceptive Methods that Protect Against Pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infections
      • Take Home Message
      • Quiz
    • Don't Hop on Bed, Until You Are Wed! >
      • Am I Ready To Have Sex?
      • What are the Benefits of not Being Sexually Active?
      • How Not To Confuse Sex With Love
      • How Do I Say "NO"
      • Take Home Message
      • Quiz
    • Let's Play Safe >
      • How Much do You Know About STI?
      • Types of STIs
      • How Can I Protect Myself Against STIs?
      • When Should I Get Tested?
      • How can I Protect My Partner and I against Pregnancy?
      • Take Home Message
      • Quiz
    • Let's Find Out About Unwanted Pregnancies >
      • Unwanted Pregnancies
      • What are the Option for an Unwanted Pregnancies
      • Unsafe Abortions
      • Legal, Religious and Ethical Aspects of Abortion in Malaysia
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      • Take Home Message
      • Quiz
    • Sexual Abuse/Sexual Violence >
      • Continuum of Behaviors
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      • What Does Rape Mean?
      • Child Sexual Abuse
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      • How to Protect Ourselves
      • Take Home Message
      • Quiz
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      • The Element of Human Trafficking
      • Human Trafficking can Happen to Anyone
      • Factors and Techniques Contributing to Children and Women Trafficking
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      • Take Home Message
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      • Protection Against Sexual Harrasment
      • Protection Against Domestic Violence
      • Protection Against Sexual Crimes
      • What's Right and What's Wrong in the Online World?
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      • Bagaimana untuk katakan "TIDAK"?
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      • Kuiz
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      • Berapa Banyakah yang Anda Tahu Tentang Jangkitan Seksual?
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      • Bilakah Saya Perlu Diuji?
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skills building

Framework of activities

Activity
Duration
Material
Assertive, Passive and Aggresive
15 minutes
Activity 4.1
Am I Ready?
15 minutes
Activity 4.2
Identity and application of life skills
10 minutes
Activity 4.3
Handout 4.3 (a)
Handout 4.3 (b)
Summary
5 minutes
Take home messages
​Total
​45 minutes
                     

Preparation and Materials

  1. Scenario quetsions
  2. Handout 4.3 (a)
  3. Handout 4.3 (b)
​

Activity 4.1: ASSERTIVE, PASSIVE and AGGRESSIVE- How can we communicate better?

Materials: Scenario questions below.
Duration: 15 minutes
Activity: For each of these 5 scenarios, state which response is AGGRESSIVE, PASSIVE or ASSERTIVE?
  • Your boyfriend/girlfriend promises to call you but doesn’t.
    1. ​​Don’t say anything about it, thinking he/she probably forgot and feel hurt quietly.
    2. Say, “I don’t like it when you tell me you’ll call and you don’t. I wish you would call me when you say you will.”
    3. Say, “You never do what you say you’ll do. You are useless!” Walk away without giving him/her a chance to explain.
  • Your friends are all smoking and, when you pass the cigarette without smoking any, someone says, “What, are you scared?”
    1. Ignore what he/she just said.
    2. Punch the other person.
    3. Say, “I wish you would not focus on me. I don’t want any.”
  • You are becoming more intimate and sexual with your partner and you think it's time to discuss contraceptive protection.
    1. Say, “Get away from me! I have plans that don’t include becoming a parent right now!”
    2. Say, “We’ve been getting really close lately, and I think we need to talk about birth control.”
    3. Decide to wait and see what happens because it would be embarrassing to bring up the subject of birth control at this age.
  • While discussing methods of birth control, your partner suggests using the withdrawal method. You know that it is a little bit effective against pregnancy but not HIV or other STIs
    1. Just go along with him/her.
    2. Say, “You’re so stupid! You don’t know anything!”
    3. Say, “I’m not willing to take the risk. I’d rather use something more effective and use condoms, as well, to protect us both against sexually transmitted infections.”

​Discussion:
  • Which form of communication is most comfortable to you?  Was it always the same form of communication?  When was it different?
  • Can you identify scenarios where you would feel more comfortable responding one way but would benefit more from responding a different way?  Which scenarios struck you this way?
  • What would make it easier for you to communicate assertively in most situations?  Are there any situations in which you might need support to communicate assertively?  How could you get that support?
  • Are there situations in which it would not be in your best interest to communicate assertively?

Adapted from Life Planning Education, Advocates for Youth, Updated 2009
​

Activity 4.2: AM I READY? -  How can I be sure I am ready for a sexual relationship?

Making decisions about sex with your partner may be difficult as everyone has different values and beliefs. How would you know if you are ready to have a sexual relationship with your partner? What questions should a person ask before deciding he/she is ready to have sex?

Duration: 15 minutes

Activity: Go through these questions below and get your students to answer as honestly as they can. If they can pair up with a friend, talk about their answers together.
  1. How do I feel about sex? Do I think it would be right for me? With what type of person?
  2. How does my partner feel about sex? Is it compatible with my feelings?
  3. Am I exploiting or pressuring my partner? Could my partner be exploiting me?
  4. How would my partner and I feel if someone close found out about our sexual relationship?
  5. Do I trust my partner? 100%?
  6. Am I comfortable being vulnerable in front of my partner? Being undressed?
  7. What extra pressure might I have once we have sex?
  8. How will I feel if we break up?
  9. What will I do to prevent STIs?
  10. What would I do if I got an STI?
  11. What would I do to prevent pregnancy if we have vaginal sex?
  12. If we have vaginal sex and a pregnancy occurs, what would I do? How would my partner and I feel?

Discussion:
  • Explain that if a person cannot answer any of these questions with confidence, they are not ready to have sex.
  • What went through your mind when answering these questions? Which was easy to answer? What questions do you think is most important to discuss with your partner? Any added questions that you will like to add?
  • How do you think it will be for you and your partner to talk through ALL these questions? Do you think it is important?

Adapted from Life Planning Education, Advocates for Youth, Updated 2009
​

Activity 4.3: Identify and application of life skills

Duration: 10 minutes

​Part A – Identifying Life Skills
  1. Facilitator briefly introduce the importance of life skills to young people.
  2. Divide the participants into groups of 5 – 6 persons.
  3. Provide each group with cards exhibited in Handouts 4.3 (a).
  4. Ask the participants to match the behaviours with the skills provided.
  5. Facilitator explain each of skills.

Part B – Application of Life Skills
     1.   Each group will be given a scenario as per Handouts 4.3 (b).
     2.  Participants are required to:
          - Identify the skills needed to encounter the given scenario.
          - Act out their proposed solutions to the scenario.
     3.  Facilitator to provide constructive feedback to the participants based on their presentation.
          **handouts can be found in teaching resources page
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